"Grief is the multifaceted emotions experienced to the loss of someone or something we have loved"
Loss is an experience we would all hope to avoid but sadly none of us can escape it. It is experienced in many ways and nobody knows how it will affect them until it happens. Loss is a permanent change and one that we have no control over. Grief is more than feeling sad or alone, it is a whole range of feelings. It may feel as if you are on an emotional rollercoaster. Some of the feelings frequently expressed range from being overwhelming, numbness, anger, isolation, anxiety, a loss of your own identity, loneliness, a constant raw pain and disbelief that life will be okay again.
Your grief experience will be unique to you, your individuality and to the relationship you had with the person who has died, you will do it your way. The emotions you experience are part of how you adjust to the changes that the loss has brought. The mourning process of experiencing your feelings, thoughts and behaviours are part of what helps you heal during the time of bereavement.
There is no right or wrong way to express your grief but if you feel as if can't move forward then talking to a counsellor may help you process what you are experiencing. When the person who has died is a member of your family it may difficult to talk to other family members because they are also mourning and you may not want to burden them with your feelings as well. Financial matters, family dynamics or the way others express their grief may be what is causing your distress so the confidential counselling session may be where you can express yourself and make sense of the altered life you find yourself in now. Grief feelings may come back into focus many years later when something else happens to reawaken them, so whether is it a recent loss or one from your past talking to a counsellor can help you find comfort in your memories rather than discomfort you may be feeling now.